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Comment posted How Can I Convince My Husband To Quit Smoking Without Pestering Him? by sandyjea.
you can’t help some one who does not want to be helped, but I would tell him he can not smoke around the kids that his second hand smoke will kill them and one day they will want to smoke.I feel for him I too was a 2or 3 pack a day smoker and my husband never complained I had to decide myself that I wanted to stop, and so does he,but at least now they have things that will make it easier, has he try ed the patch? or the gum, may you could suggest this and see were it goes, but please don’t let him smoke around your kids that is selfish.
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- you and the kids start walking around with masks on your faces
make it a strategy and have an internal war ,get the kids to colaborate
tell him that you are worried about the future and want to have a lover as a prospective replacement and get him to get a good life insurance ,in case he dies
put photograps of him around the house ,and built a shrine with lit candles and tell him that you are practising being sad ,for when he will die .
walk around in black mourning dresses and tell him that you want to be ready ,that you dont want to look an idiot at his funeral
etc - You can’t. It is a decision he has to make.
- Trying to convince someone to do something that they do not want to do will automatically pester that person, so there’s a “no-win” to this.
However, I do agree with not buying them for him. I smoke, and I do not ask anyone to purchase them for me. If I were (which I pray to never, ever be) unable to get them for myself, I would end up not smoking anymore.
All smokers know how harmful smoking is; we choose to find our own personal justifications for doing it, or the arrogant acceptance of the ills from smoking.
Only the smoker can stop themselves from smoking, and they get good and ready to. - The reading I have done about hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) indicates that many addictions, compulsions and obsessions may be the body’s way of coping with low blood sugar (which may affect 40% of Americans without their knowledge).
I would make sure that you request a full physical exam with blood tests from the doctor, making sure that the fasting blood insulin test is one of them. Get yours done too. If your husband registers high (more than 10) then you may be able to convince him to start a diet to moderate his insulin production. You can maybe do that without his knowledge – if you are the cook for the family. If he does that, he may find the need for cigarettes to decrease naturally. He may find he is less stressed and relaxing enough without them.
There is more info about low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) at www.hufa.org.
Good luck. - tell him you won’t buy them for him. it’s his bad habit and it’s his choice and that’s that. offer to help him find a way out when he’s ready. but the more you harp on his the more he probably digs his heels in and sticks with this bad habit. he knows it’s wrong and yet he pressures you to buy him smokes? he isn’t respecting you or himself.
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October 25th, 2009 at 9:33 am
Dear 1hotmama,
I was looking through the health questions for the same reason! Weird! This morning I talked to my husband about him quiting smoking. He became quiet and then got mad at me. He smokes more than a pack a day and has started to develop a nasty annoying cough. His sister died at 45 of cancer and his mother has been under Dr’s. care for a spot on her lungs. Needless to say they all smoke. I don’t allow smoking in our house. He smokes on the porch. I do not buy cigarettes for him. He just buys them by the carton and keeps them in his truck. I am a reformed smoker….did it with the patch…7 years smoke free. He won’t even try to quit.
What to do?!!!! I surely don’t know but thank you for the question. I’ll pray for them both, ok?
October 25th, 2009 at 1:58 pm
tell him you won’t buy them for him. it’s his bad habit and it’s his choice and that’s that. offer to help him find a way out when he’s ready. but the more you harp on his the more he probably digs his heels in and sticks with this bad habit. he knows it’s wrong and yet he pressures you to buy him smokes? he isn’t respecting you or himself.
October 25th, 2009 at 5:48 pm
The reading I have done about hypoglycemia (low blood sugar) indicates that many addictions, compulsions and obsessions may be the body’s way of coping with low blood sugar (which may affect 40% of Americans without their knowledge).
I would make sure that you request a full physical exam with blood tests from the doctor, making sure that the fasting blood insulin test is one of them. Get yours done too. If your husband registers high (more than 10) then you may be able to convince him to start a diet to moderate his insulin production. You can maybe do that without his knowledge – if you are the cook for the family. If he does that, he may find the need for cigarettes to decrease naturally. He may find he is less stressed and relaxing enough without them.
There is more info about low blood sugar (hypoglycemia) at http://howtoquitsmokingcigarettes.net/recommended-stop-smoking-products/ " /> Good luck.
October 25th, 2009 at 6:20 pm
Trying to convince someone to do something that they do not want to do will automatically pester that person, so there’s a “no-win” to this.
However, I do agree with not buying them for him. I smoke, and I do not ask anyone to purchase them for me. If I were (which I pray to never, ever be) unable to get them for myself, I would end up not smoking anymore.
All smokers know how harmful smoking is; we choose to find our own personal justifications for doing it, or the arrogant acceptance of the ills from smoking.
Only the smoker can stop themselves from smoking, and they get good and ready to.
October 25th, 2009 at 6:44 pm
you can’t help some one who does not want to be helped, but I would tell him he can not smoke around the kids that his second hand smoke will kill them and one day they will want to smoke.I feel for him I too was a 2or 3 pack a day smoker and my husband never complained I had to decide myself that I wanted to stop, and so does he,but at least now they have things that will make it easier, has he try ed the patch? or the gum, may you could suggest this and see were it goes, but please don’t let him smoke around your kids that is selfish.
October 25th, 2009 at 10:42 pm
You can’t. It is a decision he has to make.
October 26th, 2009 at 4:15 am
you and the kids start walking around with masks on your faces
make it a strategy and have an internal war ,get the kids to colaborate
tell him that you are worried about the future and want to have a lover as a prospective replacement and get him to get a good life insurance ,in case he dies
put photograps of him around the house ,and built a shrine with lit candles and tell him that you are practising being sad ,for when he will die .
walk around in black mourning dresses and tell him that you want to be ready ,that you dont want to look an idiot at his funeral
etc